Breakups, even expected and mutual ones, often feel like a kick a teeth, but a breakup feels like a mugging when it comes to light that our ex has been in effect, poisoning the waters by saying things about us that are not true or are certainly exaggerated. Why would somebody who we shared a relationship with and who we believe that we were loving to, choose to spread misinformation designed to discredit us? When this person shares their reasons with you or you hear it through the grapevine, you struggle to reconcile this version of them with the person you thought they were or the relationship experiences that you had. Control who is in touch with you and in fact, sever ties. They want to preserve a certain image. Stay deluded and avoid responsibility. Some people always give themselves and others very similar reasons for their breakups. Save face.
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If love is deemed as beautiful and magical, then breakups are shocking and wicked. They bring out the worst in people regardless of whether you are the dumpee or the dumper. The only difference between the two is that dumpees usually do their best to control their behavior—for they want their exes back, while dumpers give in to the repulsive emotions and act imprudently as if the dumpee never existed.
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Subscribe To Our Newsletter! She may have taken revenge on you, tried to destroy your life, or just made your life downright miserable. Or, she may have seemed strong and independent in your relationship, but texted you times per day after you broke up with her. Or, she may have seemed supportive during the relationship, but broke up with you by sliding out the back door and never showing her face again. You think someone has integrity, but when they want out, and do so in a very cowardly way, it becomes a real disappointment.
Dear Harlan: I have a problem with an old ex; actually, he has a problem with me. We are very over, but he has been telling far-fetched lies to other people, making himself look like an innocent victim. Please help! This is all about him getting your attention. Note to all spiteful, immature exes: Exposing intimate secrets shared between you and your ex just makes you look ugly. Really, who would want to date someone who shares private, intimate secrets when a relationship goes bad? Instead of getting even, just get a life, and find someone to share it with. Keep secrets a secret, and move on with dignity.